Thursday, July 21, 2011

Texting and dating

So, yesterday I was bored. Day dreaming about how I wanted to leave work and go put my swimsuit on, grab some ice cold beer, my floaty and head to the lake and just float...I'd prefer a beach somewhere but this is Oklahoma and the lake is the closet thing I have.


Instead I surfed the net and stumbled across this article about dating in this modern age. I know that I rely on texting way to much to communicate. I talk to few people on the phone, mainly my mom, best friends and my Nana, because Lord knows that lady can barely turn on her computer much less text me.

Love you Nana!

Texting is just so much easier I think. It's nice to just send a quick text like, "Hope you are having a great day!" or to schedule a dinner date or lunch date or whatever. Everyone is busy during the day and it's faster and more convenient this way.

However, there are certain things that should not be said via text messaging and this article sums it up.

1. Saying I love you for the first time
For the love of pete, don’t screw this one up. You only get to say “I love you” for the first time once. Even if you drop the “I,” it still counts.
2. Anything about being anywhere near your ex
If you’re friends with your ex, power to you. If there’s really nothing going on there, you shouldn’t have to bend over backwards to make sure that whoever you’re dating now doesn’t get jealous. However, saying that you have plans with your ex, in your actual, spoken voice is just common courtesy. Information dropped over text has a tendency to become a bigger deal than it has to be.
3. You’ve been “feeling weird” about things
Vague + Scary + Not-Actually-Available-To-Talk-About-It = Panic on the part of whoever you’re dating. Even the most cool-headed dater is likely to “feel weird” about your “feeling weird.” Figure out what you actually mean, then call or say it in person.
4. You might be pregnant
Cool. I “might” not freak out. Try to remember when you’re texting someone that they could be anywhere. Like work. Or at dinner with their mother. For example.
5. You’re pissed off/disappointed
Fighting over text is stupid. Even if you’re REALLY ANGRY, sending a text message into the ether isn’t going to make you feel any better about it. Take a deep breath. Either write something neutral or nothing at all. Then yell at them next time you see them in person.
6. Breaking up
Come on. You know better than that, don't you?
(I feel as though this is the modern version of a post it...anyone remember that episode on Sex and the City?)

Have a great day ladies!


1 comment:

Jodie said...

Next it's going to be Facebooking and Dating!! How about someone breaking up with you threw Facebook... I think it would be worse than Texting!! And it is!!