Thursday, March 1, 2012

Being Single

 “I must learn to love the fool in me the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, hurts and gets hurt, promises and breaks promises, laughs and cries.” ~Theodore Isaac Rubin

Do you guys follow The Single Woman? If not, you should because she is amazing. Think Carrie Bradshaw amazing. She has great advice for us single gals...actually she just has great advice in general. Whether you are single or not.

I saw this quote yesterday in her post, I just love it! Absolutely love it. I know I judge myself to harshly sometimes. I know I talk waytomuch or say things that don't make any sense...I cry at those dang Sara Mclaughlin commercials and that self-control thing...let's just say that Rocky Road ice cream didn't eat itself, okay!

All those things though...they make ME who I am.

And that's just that.

I don't know if it's because I live in the South, or because I ain't gettin' any younger or because everyone around me is either getting married or having babies...pretty sure it's all of the above, but I get asked DAILY and I mean DAILY, are you dating someone? Why aren't you dating someone?

I have blogged about it before. It's frustrating getting asked those questions. Trust me if I knew the answer, don't you think I would be dating someone and/or married.

Geez Louis.

Yesterday, a lady told me(and it's not just her, here lately I've been told this several times) dating at your age, it isn't easy.


When did I become the age where YOUR AGE was a factor.

I am 27. Is that really an age, where dating isn't easy??

It's not that I don't get asked out on dates, I mean...that eighty year old man who gave me the Worther's Original candy asked me on a date. See...I get asked. Might not be in my particular age range of dating, but still.

I was asked.

I will admit, her telling me that kinda of made me sad and discouraged me a little and made me wonder, maybe I am being too picky.

Then I saw this...and all hope was restored.

Amen. Give it all to God

God knows what he's doing. So, all the times that I questioned maybe if I did this differently or said this or actually went on a second date with that would have worked out and I wouldn't still be single....GOD knows, and he has the perfect man for me to marry. 

He won't be perfect, I'm not perfect...but he'll be perfect for me.



Beth McC. said...

I havent heard of her so thanks for sharing!! Great post!!

Beth said...

love this post. i get pressure from all around me about not having a boyfriend or people saying "we need to find you a boyfriend." um...who says i want one? i realize i'm not getting any younger but let me get all of my single life out of my system and then i'll think about settling down.

Anonymous said...

Excellent. Top notch post, my friend. I like the part where it says, "...and I don't need your help." Silly humans - thinking God needs our assistance. He's got a tough job.


Anonymous said...

in time God will lead you to the right direction. I've been there done that... and beat myself up many times, but always remember God is writing your love story, just find patience.

Jodie said...

God will find us the most amazing man!!! In time we just have to wait... I would wait an eternity just have the man God wants me to marry. I love you girl, and one day our blogs will be about our future husbands! ;)

Tiffany said...

Absolutely perfect. Seriously love it! Way to put two amazing quotes together. That last one is exactly right--God doesn't need our help. When we try and help, we end up screwing things up. He's got it figured out and it'll be better than we can imagine! :)

~Miss Football

Jen Dutton said...

great post! Patience isn't my thing....I'm more of a right now kinda person....but you are so right, be patient and it will come.
Working on that.

Mrs Wallace said...

God absolutely has a plan! I heard the same thing from so many for years. I too thought I was being too picky, but I didn't want to settle. And being patient definitely paid off. I have the most amazing husband and every now and then I am reminded just how perfect he is for me. Enjoy being single and when the time is right, God will bring you your perfect man.

Sami said...

Amen sista!

Cori H. said...

I so needed to read this today! Thank you! Since when did 27 become old? Really? Just because we didn't get married at 21 doesn't mean there's a thing wrong with us! God has THE perfect men for us in HIS time. Not everyone else's!

I'm following The Single Woman now. She really does have good advice!

Ashley said...

Love this post. The south is terrible because there are expectations and if you deviate, then something MUST be wrong with you!

I think you hit this on the head. That last quote is so true. Whatever you do, DON'T SETTLE!

Bubble My Licorice said...

what a great post :)
I love it!